This whole motherhood thing is entirely over-rated.

[reynardo]

Is the 42nd trimester too late to do anything about it?

Having dragged my backside out of bed on several Tuesdays and Thursdays to get Ratboy to school on time for his German classes, I now find he hasn't been going because he didn't have the right workbook.

Heaven knows what else he's been missing or not doing.

He's headed to school this morning in a major grump because of it, and blaming it all on "stress". This does not help me at all.

So please come and visit me when it's allowed for good behaviour for the next 20 years, would you?

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[frou-frou.livejournal.com]

You know we will darling *hugs*

[tabbytiger.livejournal.com]

Oh the memories this brings back. What fun I'm sure I have similar acts of truancy and disobedience to look forward to.
*hugz* and mental support.

[invader-kitty.livejournal.com]

I remember back when I was in year 8. I didn't have any friends so I wouldn't sit down to eat my lunch, instead I'd walk around looking like I was busy or going to or from somewhere so no one saw me by myself. Of course, this meant I never ate lunch and me being the brain-child I was never thought to throw it out. I would keep all my old lunches in my bag until one day my mother found them and naturally exploded at me. I bawled and tried to explain the 'no friends' thing but she didn't think that was a good enough excuse.

My point is, kids see the world differently because they have different priorities. Perhaps Ratboy was yelled at by a teacher for having the wrong book and he didnt want to stress you out more by telling you (you have seemed pretty stressed lately), so he just thought it best not to go.

I understand that you are angry and frustrated, but try sitting down and talking with him about it this afternoon. Sometimes you have to put aside being a mother and be a friend instead. And now I'm going to stop souning like Dr.Phil.

Thats just my two cents by the way, I'm not trying to tell you how to be a parent. [hugs]

[reynardo.livejournal.com]

True, but this isn't the first time that happened. I'm willing to cope with the disappointments of school life ( and there have been a few), but when he knows he should have let me know that he needed to pay the $20 for a new workbook...

You see, he hasn't got last year's report yet either, and that's because of another $20 book he lot. I can cope witht he losing. I would happily pay the money to get the report. But he didn't tell us for ages, and he knows by experience that we get far angrier at the lies and hiding things.

*sigh*

Just don't have kids.

[invader-kitty.livejournal.com]

But kids see things differently. I made it into the dance group once. It was all I ever wnated. To be one of the cool girls in the dance team and not just in a shitty filler role. But I dropped out because mum had hurt her elbow and I didnt think she could sew the costume. She got mad at me because she had already arranged for someone else to do it, but it was too late. And I never mde it into the dance team ever again :( But I digress :) Kids do their own thinking and make their own judgements, and because they dont have the life exprience most often their ability to rationalise is way off.

I know you're down bella. I know it must be frustrating and very, very trying. But I admire that you can do this and still your job. I'd have broken if I had to do both at once.

[djfiggy.livejournal.com]

Is this one of the boys I'm going to end up meeting when I get over there?

I'll try not to make him go joyriding when he should be working. >:)

[shadow-5tails.livejournal.com]

I have to wonder why the school didn't bring this to your attention earlier, you know - hopefully they can tell you if there's anything else amiss. I trust it's not too late to get the book and settle him into the German class?

And I suspect the blaming things on stress, fairly or unfairly as the case may be, is something that he's picked up from his environment. There's been an awful lot of stress about for you guys lately, and it sounds like it has, unsurprisingly, got to you all on occasion. I know you won't let it turn into a convenient excuse, though.

He's still a good kid, and you're still doing a good job. *hug*

Hang in there, white-knuckled and bloody-minded, and remember that not only will we come visit, but you'll want to be careful cutting into the cake we'll bring along...

[shadow-5tails.livejournal.com]

Oh the memories this brings back. What fun I'm sure I have similar acts of truancy and disobedience to look forward to.

I feel...all boring now...

*grin*

[turnberryknkn.livejournal.com]

Argh.

Very sorry to hear.

[quatranoctal.livejournal.com]

They may well have sent her a note, via the same son who lost the textbook[1]. Notes sent home have a tendency to be found:

a) The day they have to be dealt with
b) A week after they have to be dealt with
c) When cleaning out the bag at the end of the year

[1] I'm not going to mention anything at all about my school-time behaviour here.

[shadow-5tails.livejournal.com]

This is exactly why I, and the schools I've encountered (though admittedly that's not an exhaustive list), wouldn't rely on a note sent via the kid concerned when trying to communicate this information. Schools have parental and emergency contact details for a reason - missing a month of classes doesn't strike me as something to send home a polite note about. Particularly in these increasingly paranoid & litiginous times, I'd imagine a school would want to be sure that parents knew of and consented to their child's absence, to avoid accusations of negligence further down the line...

As an aside, I still love your Samoyed icon. Is that your dog, by any chance?

[harliquinn.livejournal.com]

He's still a good kid, and you're still doing a good job. *hug*

Yes, indeed.

Is there a way you can call the school and find out if a) they sent notes home about missing the classes and/or the book b) tried to ring you up about it and /or c) you can still get Ratboy into the class with a new workbook?

... i hear that most kids 'suddenly disappear with wads of money' sometime around the 60th trimester. If you are lucky they don't come back save twice a year!

[waitingman.livejournal.com]

Sounds just like a drummer to me...