Good news and things and stuff

[reynardo]

So the biggest YAYYYYYY is that my beloved lederhosen has been offered a job in Canberra, so that huge worry of not-enough-income and depressed-bunny and being-trapped-in-my-job-cause-we-can't-both-not-work is now gone. I need to pull my finger out and keep looking, though. Now I can look for 4-6 month contract jobs instead, which will be different, and Geoffrey will move to Canberra as soon as we know the details, and I'll stay here in Sydney and look after da_norvegicus while he finishes Year 10 at school.

I'm not as buoyant as I ought to be, though, because a combination of a cold that hanging on, and tiredness, and That Time Again, have left me fairly bleugh. I really don't want to move again if we don't have to, and while I was quite happy about moving to Melbourne, I'm not so sure about Canberra. I don't have the same social network there that I already have in Melbourne (apologies to my lovely new friends in Canberra, trixtah, saluqi and faxon). Canberra is a smallish closer-to-a-town city, and while it has lots of lovely things like art galleries and museums and walks and a very pretty centre around the lake, it doesn't have the nightlife of Melbourne or the feel of Sydney.

I also really don't want to move da_norvegicus if I can help it. It took a very long time for him to re-find his feet after we left the mountains. He's built up a great network of friends here, complete with the D&D group he runs. Boarding him in the mountains last time was a disaster, so I don't want to leave him with someone that's not family.

I don't want to be further away from my dear twiggystick, whom I care for very much. And I don't want to be away from all the other friends, some from work, some from outside, that are part of who I am. I can do the "meet new people and make new friends", but I need my roots too, and Canberra is a bit of a way for them to come just for a drop-in visit.

A very minor point is a couple of ex-boyfriends from years ago who live in the ACT. It would be odd running into them. (Yes, we broke up badly).

And moving. I hate moving. I haven't had time or the impetus to do much with all the boxes from the last move. I'd have to be honest and hold one hell of a craft-based garage sale before we left, but I still wouldn't want to do it. And packing. And getting stuff together.

So I love my beloved, and I'm so thrilled he's going to be working again (and working with quatranoctal, which is handy. They'll explain things as "oh, he's a relative of my wife"). But I'm not as bouncy bouncy happy as I wish I could be for him.

Comments

[mr-figgy.livejournal.com]

*Hugs you, vigorously*

I sometimes take for granted that I've had parents who have pretty much kept the same job for as long as I can remember, but we certainly moved in spite of their work consistently being in the same place, so I understand some of the ways a kid can feel moving around like that. Then again, most of that happened before I was in Junior High; I just slogged through it without whining like some little kids seem to be able to do better than some adults.

Any way it turns out, I've told my parents and they're happy for lederhosen. Perhaps it isn't entirely outlandish anymore that you might one day be able to afford another East Coast visit, dealing with some irritating border issues to see me and my surrounds as well as a couple of talking squirrels and others.

Remember, if the drudgery of work gets to be too much... you could always follow the example of the Crimson Permanent Assurance. +2 pirate magic!

[trixtah.livejournal.com]

I certainly sympathise with your thoughts about moving to Canberra. This town really does nothing at all for me in terms of its "vibe", and I'm not a gregarious type who makes friends easily. Obviously, the most important thing to me is being in a good relationship - that's why I'm here after all - but if I didn't have that reason to remain, I think it'd take me exactly the time to find a job somewhere I really wanted to live to leave.

I've gotten used to not living in the same town as my friends over the last decade... but it's bloody difficult leaving behind your network. A three hour drive isn't too bad for hanging out, but it requires a lot more arranging than saying "are you at home tomorrow? I'll drop by then."

[saluqi.livejournal.com]

Yay for lederhosen!

As for not being bouncy bouncy, given all you've written it makes perfect sense to me. I mean, sure, I have a vested interest in Nifty People moving to Canberra but I know this town can be heavy going for people.

Hope you find something that works well for you all.

[freyaw.livejournal.com]

It makes sense that you'd be happy, but also that upheavals, of the kind that look to be likely, leave you cold. It's a reduction of stress in one direction, and an increase in the other.

[sqgl.livejournal.com]

Hi, you responded to my post in polyaus
(where you can find a review of the meetup last Sunday).

I fully understand you, since i have moved around a lot in Melbourne
(where most of my pals still are). I kind of put aside all of that no by settling down but by living out of a backpack and travelling perpetually for the last 8 years. But i am now tired of that also. If only there was a cool place to settle. Am kind of "stuck" in Sydney for now.

I must try out Katoomba before i decide to settle anywhere,
so I will quiz you one day on your experiences in Blue Mountains.

Anyhow, i figure getting to know someone here first is better than
a sudden awkward real life meeting so i'll peek in on your LJ entries if that is OK.

I don't write LJ entries myself... preferring individual corespondence for now. I used to write mass-mailouts but not since blogs took off (I figure my pals have more than enough stuff to read onnline nowadays).

[reynardo.livejournal.com]

Absolutely - my LJ is there to read. If I didn't want you to read the private ones, I wouldn't have added you to the friends list :-)

And please, let's meet for coffee one day and I'll tell you about the mountains. And the city (I was born in Sydney). And the bits in between...

[sqgl.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the open-ness.

Am currently at Lake Macquarie and try to spend a minimum
time in Sydney (i was born there but not fond of the place).

Would be good to meet before the poly meeting.
Maybe an hour or two before the meeting but on
a different day altogether may be even wiser if possible.
In the meantime, LJ and IRC (#polyamory on FreeNode)
will be preoccupying my social time
so you can expect frequent responses to your LJ posts :)