Feeling sad for my mother.

[reynardo]

It's weird when someone dies and you're not sorry, but you do feel sorry for the people impacted. My grandmother died this morning. It's a relief for me, because my mother won't have the burden of trying to deal with her selfishness, and her demands, and cleaning up the disasters after her (and believe me there were some beauties). I've had as little as possible to do with my grandmother over the last 15 years, and now I don't have to work to avoid her any more. And now my mother will be able to travel like she's wanted to without feeling guilty about it. She got dumped with caring for both grandmothers when all the rest of the family moved away, and it's time she had some fun.

So rather than sending me your sympathies, I'd like you to instead think of someone you haven't seen or spoken to in ages just because you've drifted apart, or haven't got around to it, or every time you go to do it something comes up. Ring that person just to say hi. And then go and do something crazy or outrageous that you've always wanted to do but never had the nerve, like giving a parking patroller a flower, or running into the ocean fully clothed, or driving to some tiny town just because the name sounds curious.

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[mr-figgy.livejournal.com]

*Hugs you vigorously*

[turnberryknkn.livejournal.com]

Or send a text page to a friend across the sea.

Thank you very much for your frithmas greetings. And gift. Merry frithmas to you all. *hugs*

[waitingman.livejournal.com]

"... think of someone you haven't seen or spoken to in ages... or haven't got around to it, or every time you go to do it something comes up."

Very much thinking of you & hope we can catch up sooner rather than later ~ Christmas always gets in the way of the important stuff...

[velvetink.livejournal.com]

huggles & I hope your mum can now get to do some fun stuff for herself.

[reynardo.livejournal.com]

We're going to make her.

[shadow-5tails.livejournal.com]

You're getting my sympathy anyway. It can be just as hard to not be sorry when cultural convention says that you should be, and guilt's sometimes worse than grief. *hug*

I hope your mother is doing okay with the mixed emotions, too; your beloved and I talked a bit about it over Scrab last night, and I fully support the plans to get her out to some exotic destination where cocktails are mandatory...